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So, Joe and I leave on May 31st in the afternoon and arrive just before 10pm.  On Sunday, we are meeting the foster family at 1pm for a meal and we hope the kids want to stay and use the pool.  My heart is pretty heavy.  We feel so blessed that Nathanael is part of their famiily.  Whenever we talk to the foster mother, she tells us that all she want is for us to love him and that a little bit of her heart will go with him.  It was really important for me to have my parents join us to that they could feel good about us.  I told the foster mother that she is Nathanael’s second mother – the first being the birth mother and me being the third mother.  A lot of change for a 9 month old (which he turne yesterday)!

I really worry about Nathanael’s little heart.  He was a bit dazed on our last visit trip and I think he was suffering from transition issues.  One of the big things in adoption is attachment and bonding.  Kids from an orphanage are likely to have issues because they haven’ had a primary care taker.  I do think the first few weeks are going to be hard as he has put his trust and love with his foster family and well, I’m sure it’s gonna freak out his little soul to have them disappear.  Generally speaking, this is a good problem because it shows he is capable of attachment.  But, I think it’s going to be hard.  We need to help him build his trust in us. 

In hindsigt, it was really good that we had a few miserable nights on the last trip.  The first trip was so magical that its unrealistic to think that it’s always going to be that way.  Those few sleepless nights really tested me and I think my expectations are more realistic. 

On June 2 we have ou embassy appointment.  Of course, I have his little outfit picked out (if I can find it)!  We pick up his visa on June 3.  When we land in the US on June 7, Nathanael will automatically be a US citizen. 

Tagged

Our wonderful friends Stephanie and Jason tagged us (http://journeytoeli.blogspot.com).  We spent Good Friday with Stephanie, Jason and their adorable son Eli in Antigua.  I will write more about it later but for now, we’ve been tagged – 10 random things to know about Nathanael.

1)  He’s got some choppers coming in.  He put our fingers in his mouth and you could feel them.  It was really cool.
2)  Nathanael has got a great laught.  Seriously, it’s sort of a half scream, half laugh.
3)  He loves, loves, loves to bounce.  I can’t wait to bring him home and put him in a jumper – he’ll love it so much!
4)  Nathanael’s foster father loves to hold his hands and stand him up.  He’s has really good strength.
5)  Joe taught him to splash like a mad man in the tub. 
6)  Nathanael loves the water.
7)  Nathanael loves his foster family so much and it’s the greatest thing to see.
8)  He grabbed his diaper when Mom didn’t realize that he was wet.  He pretty much looked at me with an expression that said “you dumbs***, I’m wet!”
9) Nathanael likes TV.  He was mesmerized by it.
10)  Our foster family said Nathanael was the smartest baby they have ever had.  Of course, there is nothing better they could have said to us!

Happy Sunday!

Updated Photos

Our agency sent us updated photos on Friday.  I am not sure, but I think they were take prior to our visit trip. 

We still haven’t heard anything from PGN and at this point, that’s a good thing! 

Visit Trip

We are having a great time.  He’s such a sweetie.  He’s also a lot more active this time!  We learned the first night that he likes to grab – and he grabbed my black bean soup – kerplunk.

He’s just more everything.  He’s also crying right now.

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Visit Trip

We have planned a visit trip over Easter.  So excited!

Elmer

The birth mother named him Elmer Nathanael. Until things settle down and (if) we get out of PGN (actually if we ever get in PGN but that’s another matter), we aren’t going to change anything.  It’s like not having a baby shower until you have the baby. 

I imagine we will change Little E’s name.  When we received the referral and were told the name, we both immediately started laughing.  I mean, Elmer!  Personally, I loved the name from that moment on.  I also am not really sure if I feel comfortable changing his name.  I asked our agency and they don’t think that lawyer’s office named him, they think it was the birth mother.   I feel like there are so few ways to honor her, that changing the name might be dishonoring her.  I also am weird about stuff like that.  My first dog that I got from the humane society, whose name was Hobo, well, I never changed it.  He was like 6 and it just felt wrong to impose a new name on him.  Our current dog, Zach, we changed the name.  The people who had him before us (for like 2 days) named him Drake.  It was pretty clear that they had no idea what they signed up for and this dog is no Drake.   I don’t know what his pre-Drake name was so I never felt weird about changing his name.

I asked my nephew what he thought of the name Elmer and he looked at me like he ate something sour.  So, we think we’ll need to change his name because we don’t want him to be mocked or all the other awful things kids do. 

The thing is, he’s totally an Elmer.  It just fits him.  He’s sweet and fun and just a 15 lb soul full of life.  So, we’ll see.

New January Photso

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^We can almost hear him squeel in this one.

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^Sweetie pie


Little E



This is an outfit we sent him!

Process

Application to agency: 2/7/07 Dossier to agency: 7/30/07
i171h: 9/6/07
Referral: 9/13/07
POA to Guatemala: 9/28/07
DNA auth: 11/29/07
Enter family court: 12/18/07
DNA test: 1/16/08
Birth mother interview: 1/16/08
DNA test results to embassy: 1/23/08
Registered with the CNA: 2/11 (grandfathered in)
Exit family court: 2/11/08
Pre-approval: 3/6/08
Enter PGN: 3/12/08
Exit PGN: 4/16/08
Adoption decree signed: 4/17/08
New birth certificate: 4/22/08
New passport: 4/25/08
Orange: 5/5/08
2nd DNA Test: 5/8/08
Pink: TBD
Embassy appt: