Archive for October, 2011

October 30

It’s been a good month and one that I think we all really needed. Work slowed down a bit and that made it easier to enjoy it all. I feel like we get to experience a precious, rare, and fleeting bubble with Nathanael. He’s a joyful and kind soul and I want to extend this bubble as long as I can. I think I don’t want the world to get to him. Eventually, it will happen but for now, we get to experience this amazing gift.

Today we played his version of our Montessori classroom. It gave me a quite good glance into how things are run in the room and I have to say, I approve. Nathanael played the teacher and it was really fun to act out the experience with him. Nathanael showed me “work” and he clearly has a good model in Miss Sarah. We did circle time, work time, outside time, and show & tell. I think it’s my favorite thing to play since hockey tends to wear me out. It was fun to hear Nathanael’s experience through Nathanael’s voice of Miss Sarah. He clearly finds it to be such a great honor when Miss Sarah shows him work.

We also started his first (semi) organized sport. He’s in floor hockey and I think the concept of organized sports was a bit challenging him to understand. Eventually, he’ll get the hang of it but apparently, he really hated wearing the goggle (which I can’t blame him for).

We start learn to skate in a few weeks. Nathanael thinks he starting actual hockey but I’ve had to explain to him tha the needs to learn to skate first – this is a bit challenging for him to process.

Tomorrow is Halloween and I think it’s way up their on their kids favorite lists. We are so lucky to be living by amazing neighbors and the kids are going to go out together. He loves it and was so hoping to go trick or treating with them.

What It’s Like to be 4

We’re well into 4 and I am finding it a very interesting age. He’s so fully formed – his mind, phsyically he’s able to pretty much what he wants, personality, and social skills. He’s aware and for the most part, on his game.

Shame. This week was school photos. I asked him to wear a red hoodie (love this kid in red) and it was just a regular hoodie – with a football on it. Apparently, somehow this elicited the response of “the other kids will laugh at me” in a very sorrowful voice. Now, if had sad, I don’t want to wear it – on it would stay. But, a red hoodie as a source of shame? Off it went.

Literacy. According to his teacher, he’s on the cusp of reading. I think it would be so neat to teach a kid to read, I envy them. We’ve not been pushing it because we don’t want it to be a “thing” but it is a BIG thing that is super exciting. I look forward to his progress.

Field Trips. Montessori allows fied trips at 4 and riding the bus is a big, big thrill. On his first field trip, he went to an apple orchard. The pride he showed was something else. I used to bring him to school and make him do the walk of shame – all the other kids would be lined up in their red field trip shirts and Nathanael would have to walk by them on his way to the classroom. But, NOW, N’s a field tripper and officially a “big kid” in his room.

Competitive. I like that Nathanael is competitive – I want him to be a competitive but I also don’t want him to yell at his best buddy “you’re not my friend” when he loses. Not cool bud, not cool. I talked to his teacher, apparently – amongst the 4 year old boys being a sore loser is an epidemic. Who knew?

Words Hurt. Last week he told me several times that he didn’t want me to be his mommy anymore. When you’ve got so few tools in your arsenal of angry, well – he picks a good one. I almost started laughing at him. But, a cranky, pissed off 4 year old doesn’t want to be laughed at and it just sort of takes the drama up a level, who knew?

No Napping. We are pretty much done napping and it’s going well. Fridays can be a bit tough but, for the most part, it’s going well.

We are off to get the costume for Halloween. Spiderman was in the lead but it appears Transformers (not sure I’ll let him go there) and Captain America are dark horses.


Little E



This is an outfit we sent him!

Process

Application to agency: 2/7/07 Dossier to agency: 7/30/07
i171h: 9/6/07
Referral: 9/13/07
POA to Guatemala: 9/28/07
DNA auth: 11/29/07
Enter family court: 12/18/07
DNA test: 1/16/08
Birth mother interview: 1/16/08
DNA test results to embassy: 1/23/08
Registered with the CNA: 2/11 (grandfathered in)
Exit family court: 2/11/08
Pre-approval: 3/6/08
Enter PGN: 3/12/08
Exit PGN: 4/16/08
Adoption decree signed: 4/17/08
New birth certificate: 4/22/08
New passport: 4/25/08
Orange: 5/5/08
2nd DNA Test: 5/8/08
Pink: TBD
Embassy appt: