Archive for August, 2010

Transitions

It was a week of transitions – the new preschool, new “friend” Tita living with us – lots of new stuff for all of us!

All in all, the week went as expected.  It was hard.  It was hard on Nathanael and it was hard on us.  It’s hard to believe he’s only been there for a week – it felt really long!  Probably because leaving a sobbing child who begs you to stay “just 5 minutes” is incredibly heart breaking.  I def cried as much as he did.  The good news is I feel really good about the teachers and pre school environment.  And I really like the director.  So, I think we will be fine but – boy oh boy – is it hard!  He also brings up some of his buddies from his old school and that’s incredibly hard as well.   That’s the part I feel the worst about.  He keeps asking about his “good buddies.”  Oy.

He’s got a bit of a breather.  They are closed for in service days today and tomorrow.  So, I stayed home today and tomorrow he goes to Grandma & Grandpa.  Wed will def be a grind but that’s just the way it goes.

Helicopter Mom Me

I read an article in yesterday NYT’s on parents dropping off their kids for their freshman year at college.  Apparently, some parents stay well beyond what’s needed and they’ve started to formalize/structure good-bye times.  Some parents even stay a few days just in case the kids need them.  That’s my future in 15 years.  I will be that parent who sticks around and I own it.

Today was N’s first day at preschool.  He def handled it better than me.  As he was going potty (an interesting shade of red due to the red frosting this weekend), we had chance to chat (always a good time to chat).  He didn’t know his teacher’s name and he wanted clarification on that.  And then he asked me very sweetly (almost pleading) if I could come into the room with him for “just 5 minutes.”  And I started tearing up.  At Montessori, they drop off at the door.  I think this is very good – less disruption, clear boundaries etc.  But, today is was so hard.  Of course, this made him nervous when I was upset.  I can’t help myself. 

When we got to the door, he just walked right in.  I didn’t even get to hug him good-bye.  I’m glad he did that but I sure could have used that hug!

So, then I stood in the hallway, trying my best to look through the 2 way mirrors which actually not 2 way mirrors (because the hall lights are on).  This really pisses me off.  I could barely see him.  He seemed ok but was just kind of standing on the sides by himself.  I like his teacher and I’m sure she will integrate him into the class but oy. 

I think he will like the school quite a bit but I just want him to be comfortable as soon as possible and make new friends quickly.

Last day of 2

As I lay here and type this N is cuddled in my arms in his blankie.  Actually on my left arm while I try to type with my right hand! 

We all had an amazing day and we are tired.  We started with 9 friends over and we all had a blast.  We had a little jumpy thing that the kids loved.  Then we all crashed.  Then we took the boat out on Minnetonka.   It was a fun day that I think Nathanael loved. 

This week our exchange student Tita joined us.  Tita is from Guatemala.  She is a very nice girl and it will be a joy to have her here.

We had awonderful year and I am teary eyed just thinking of it.  N is such a blessing to us.

Well he just fell asleep on my arm.  A sweet, just bathed, almost 3 year old.  Bliss.

Sliding into 3

We have two weeks left of two.  I’m already nostalgic for 2.  It’s been such an amazing, wonderful, and joyful year.  It’s hard for me to image a year ago when Nathanel had fewer words, didn’t always grasp the larger environment, and was so much smaller!

We had a bit of the 2’s but we were incredibly fortunate.  People have told us to prepare for the 3’s – we’ll see.  Nathanael is a pretty centered little kid so who knows? 

What happened this year . . .

*  Nathanel was potty trained.  Day care was really terrific on this and he seemed to get it without a great deal of trauma.  We had a few accidents but nothing major.  I will say this kid has a bladder the size of Montana.  He doesn’t go potty when he first wakes up and can often times wait more then an hour.  Who does that???  We are still in nighttime diapers.  He is dry most nights except when we’ve over done it a bit on the gakky.

*  Nathanael has started to learn his letter & numbers.  It’s amazing to see him start to grasp these concepts. 

*  He started out two with limted verbal skills.  His physician said that he’d like start verbalizing at 2 1/4 and he was right.  When he’s paying attention, it’s easy to have a conversation with him.  Lately, I’ve tried to have a litte conversation with him before we go to bed.  He’s such a goof ball and he jokes with most of the time.  But, it’s a lovely little habit that I want to keep up.

*  Nathanael continues to be a natural athlete.  Not much else to say here except he can run, jump, and kick with the best of them.

*  We are struggling a bit with the food.  He likes a small list of food:  french toast, blueberries, raspberries, mac/cheese, yogurt, crackers and hot dogs.  We are very much lacking on the vegetables.  This is clearly an area of improvement that we need to work on.

*  Nathanael is sleeping in his own bed most nights.  It’s fine.  He still jumps in our beds frequently enough for me to be happy.  The first thing he says when he wakes up is “where’s daddy?”  Nathanael loves his daddy and it’s a joy to see them together.

*  Nathanael learned to ride a trike this year.  He’s good at it and loves it.  We’ve “heard” that grandpa is getting him a bigger bike for his birthday.

*  Nathanael has very specific tastes in clothing.  He wants to wear peacock blue all the time and he likes printed shirts.  I tried to get him in a really cool tie die shirt that Joe brought home from NC – but he was having none of it (won’t budget even for a treat).

Nathanael will be a month of changes.  We made the very hard decision to move day cares.  It’s a decision that I particularly struggled with.  We’ve had some terrific experiences with St Peters and the boys in his room are really a special bunch.  The chemistry is amazing.  We’ll be sorry to leave but there has just been too much turnover of teachers – but, we’ve loved them all.  N will start a montessori in 2 weeks.  Of course, I’m all freaked out about – is there enough play time?  Will he use his imagination?  Is there too much structure?  But, we’ll see how it goes.

Also, it looks like Tita will be joining us August 16.  We are so looking forward to having Tita be part of our family.  It will be fun to have another woman around the house!  It’s funny to think how much more energy will be in the house.


Little E



This is an outfit we sent him!

Process

Application to agency: 2/7/07 Dossier to agency: 7/30/07
i171h: 9/6/07
Referral: 9/13/07
POA to Guatemala: 9/28/07
DNA auth: 11/29/07
Enter family court: 12/18/07
DNA test: 1/16/08
Birth mother interview: 1/16/08
DNA test results to embassy: 1/23/08
Registered with the CNA: 2/11 (grandfathered in)
Exit family court: 2/11/08
Pre-approval: 3/6/08
Enter PGN: 3/12/08
Exit PGN: 4/16/08
Adoption decree signed: 4/17/08
New birth certificate: 4/22/08
New passport: 4/25/08
Orange: 5/5/08
2nd DNA Test: 5/8/08
Pink: TBD
Embassy appt: