Archive for April, 2010

Moose & Zee

Tonight Joe arranged a family outing!  We went to the Nick Jr show that had 4 little stories – HaNow (or however it is spelled), Backyardigans, Wonder Pets, and Dora.  I”m not a huge fan of this type of stuff but it was really fun to watch Nathanael.  He was completely and totally enraptured.  He laid back and just consumed the whole show.  At moments it was toddler-mania but N was quite focused.  While most of the other toddlers were screaming and playing along, N only had one scream moment.  During Dora, he got all crazy about the map.  It kind of cracked me up because it seemed like a funny thing to get all reved up about .

Anyhow, it was a fun family experience.  Joe and I really try to create experiences and memories that will last.  It’s important to us.  N might not remember this but watching him was a blast.

On a separate note, N and the boys in his class have been banned from “hog pile.”  Which I think we can all agree is a good thing to have banned.  But, almost every evening “no hog pile” is mentioned and clearly, the loss of the hog pile is a tragic one.  It  seemed that the 4-5 little boys had fun and then, as most hog piles do, it gets ugly quickly.

Perspective & Distance

With working full time, I really try to limit the away time and I’ve had more then I am comfortable with lately:

*  Us being gone a few days last week

*  Tuesday night I had drinks with a friend.  I got home about an hour before bedtime so we still had time together.  But, I also drove up to N and Joe eating pizza on the front porch.  They both looked so happy and that they had a special eveing & time together.  So, that actually felt pretty good.

*  Last night Joe and I went to the Twins game – tickets to the Twins game in his company’s suite.  It was a special event or I wouldn’t have done it.  But, N spent the night at Grandma & Grandpas.

When I’ve had to be away like this I feel like I see N differently.  He’s growing up so fast and I just want to put on the brakes.  And I am really desperate to spend more time with him.  I feel it in my heart.  I don’t feel guilty because N is doing really well and daycare is good for him.  He’s such a calm and good natured boy.  I think day care has been a big part of that.  It’s just selfish really.  I want to spend more time with him.  I think I spend too much time thinking about the future when he won’t be around as much and won’t be as cuddly.  I want to enjoy this time as much as possible.  I was so concerned about the year of the 2 and it has so far (knock on wood) turned out to be the best year so far.

warmth

We’ve had a glorious spring.  It’s been incredibly warm and we’ve loved being outdoors.  It doeasn’t even feel like MN.  Joe already mowed once.  The neighbors are getting their outdoor pool ready.  Seriously, mid-April thinking about the pool?  That just doesn’t happen.

Joe and I went to Desert Hot Springs for a few days and got back on Wed (4/14).  Nathanael stayed with Grandma, Grandpa, and Aunt Laura.  They all seemed to really enjoy one another’s company.  Nathanel seemed to do pretty well but we could tell by the 3rd day in (we were gone for 4 nights) his voice was started to sound a bit sad.  Joe and I had a terrific time but missed Nathanael tremendously.  We think that next Nathanael will be old enough to go with us.

One of the things I’m always having to stay conscience of is how Nathanael processes things.  Last night N and I went to Grandma & Grandpa’s for dinner.  He pretty much came unglued and was upset upset upset.  I couldn’t figure it out and he kept yelling daddy and that he didn’t want to go over.  It finally dawned on me about half way over that N thought I would leave him there while Joe and I went on another trip.  I assured him that it was just dinner and that we would be coming home last night.  All was fine and pretty much calmed down immediately.  It breaks my heart a little thinking about it and how much distress he was in.  I made sure that he knew that if he stayed at Grandma and Grandpa again (invariably it will happen) that we would talk to him about in advance and he would get to say good bye to us.  Sigh.

I need to upload some photos and will do so shortly.  We are still on a big hockey kick and play every day!

Rasperries

We had a late nap so we did a late Target run.  We needed a few things and I figured we weren’t going to bed anytime soon so why not?  We just got home and N devoured 1/2 pint of raspberries.  He put handful after handful after handful in his mouth.  I think if I had purchased another 1/2 pint, he would have eaten that whole thing also.  Who knew?

I took off from work today and we were pretty lazy which is ok for a day.  We also visited Daddy at work and ate lunch together.  I think N really liked it.  We also dropped our papers off at the tax accountant, we’ll see what happens there. . .


Little E



This is an outfit we sent him!

Process

Application to agency: 2/7/07 Dossier to agency: 7/30/07
i171h: 9/6/07
Referral: 9/13/07
POA to Guatemala: 9/28/07
DNA auth: 11/29/07
Enter family court: 12/18/07
DNA test: 1/16/08
Birth mother interview: 1/16/08
DNA test results to embassy: 1/23/08
Registered with the CNA: 2/11 (grandfathered in)
Exit family court: 2/11/08
Pre-approval: 3/6/08
Enter PGN: 3/12/08
Exit PGN: 4/16/08
Adoption decree signed: 4/17/08
New birth certificate: 4/22/08
New passport: 4/25/08
Orange: 5/5/08
2nd DNA Test: 5/8/08
Pink: TBD
Embassy appt: