Archive for March, 2010

Details

One of the things I try to keep up on is the details.  Details that are associated with development phases that I will surely forget as time marches on. 

N has this cute little walk where he puts his weight on each side.  It’s hard to describe but it’s a chipper walk that has intent.  He doesn’t do it all the time, he does it when he’s excited to do something.

We do 5, thumbs, knuckles & elbows.  Sometimes we mix it up, but it’s always good for a smile. 

Toddler sized hockey stick – he’s still obsessed.  Sleeps with it, wants to play with it, favorite toy by far.

N’s little buns in little underwear are possibly the cutest things on earth.  Even his day care teaches say his buns are cute.  The day the toddlers wore there PJs to school, well N’s buns got squeezed/patted a fair amount. 

As always, morning cuddles.  The greatest part of waking up, by far.

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Sqqqquuueeezzzzzeeee

Nathanael has a new little “trick” that Miss Heather taught him.  He “squeezes” you and then says “sqquueeezzeee.”  I can’t help it, it’s completely & totally adorable.  I need to get it on video.  He just doesn’t squeeze hard and his joy at this little squeeze is adorable.

Joe and I talk about how kind of shocked we are by Nathanael’s temperment (spelled wrong, oh man my spelling/grammer are just shit).  He’s really just a sweet kid.  Neither Joe nor I could be considered sweet and I don’t think we were sweet when we were younger (I remember my dad describing me as suspicious).  Nathanael is sweet but more so then that, he’s reasonable.  In fact, he’s way more reasonable then Joe or I at times.  For example, he gets stuck on wanting something.  And we work through it (most o f the time).  I’ve learned when I try to enforce my approach e.g., just deal with it kiddo, well, it’s not a successful outcome.  But, if we work through it, it’s usually pretty ok.  For example, Nathanael did not want to leave day care tonight – he FINALLY got a chance at the computer.  So, I sat there for a few minutes but I knew I was gonna have to cut it short.  So, I lifted him up and took him out of the classroom.  He was pissed off, which I understand, and upset.  So, we sat in the church lobby and had a moment or two.  I asked him if he needed a time out and he said yes.  So, we sat at the table while he started to get his tears under control.  After a few minutes I asked him if he was ready to go home and he said yes.  While, he was still a bit riled up, it was fine.   Now, there are times in the morning when he just won’t go potty (this kid has the largest toddler bladder known to man) & it really gets my goat.  I like him to go before daycare (getting the clothes off & helping him get on the tiny potty at school isn’t my favorite thing) but he gets quite adament that he doesn’t need to go & I get adament that he needs to go.  N get his back up against the wall and we end up waiting until day care.  So far, we haven’t had any on-the-way-to-daycare accidents and I hope to avoid them in the future.  I will tell you that when we get there, this kid pees like an INCREDIBLE amount.  Even the teachers are flabergasted.  I don’t know how a 30 lb kid can hold about 5 lbs of pee, but this guy can do it.

bloody eye

N has a bloody eye.  Joe brought him in yesterday, I guess he has a scratch on the white part of his eye.  I think he got it in the great daycare toddler hockey brawl on St Patty Eve.  The teachers says she saw some blood in before.  They are always quite upfront about this type of stuff but I’m just not sure.  He got a scratch above his eye in the brawl so it would make sense they are connected.  N best buddy at school apparently got the scratch and drag – both of his cheeks were bloody with scratch marks.  I think it was quite a brawl.   They have now put obstacles in the room so the kids can no longer do the race thing that seems to escalate into unhappy kids. 

We closed on the old house today!  Glad that it is over but also bittersweet.  It was a terrific little house.  I went by it yesterday to say good bye.  I told her that a nice remodeler was going to fix her on up good.  I told her it would be fine that it might be uncomfortable for a bit.  In a week the roof should be gone!  I loved that house.  We are in the right house now but I will always love that little house. 

Our little hockey loving, hockey brawling nut is telling me gakki time – night!

Ch Ch ch Changes

We’ve noticed the pay few weeks that Nathanael has been a bit more sensitive.  He also has very specific needs and dissolves into  a puddle when they aren’t what he had in his head.  For example, the other day he asked me for a train for the car.  I got him random green train. He was in break-down mode because I didn’t get him Gorden.   At night, we get gakki (milk) ready together.  He holds a sippy cup while I pur milk.  He then sorta,kinda,not really twists the top on.  I didn’t have him help me the other night – melt down . . . And we’ve had a few issues at school (umm, his good buddy has bloddy scratches on his face courtesy of Nathanael).

I do get it.  When you have a way that you want to do things and then it doesn’t work out that way – well, it can get irritating.  We noticed this happening about 8 months ago.  But, for the last 6 months he’s been quite the reasonable kid.  So, we are thinking he’s moving onto the next development phase & this is how he copes.  We noticed a need for more sleep, eating somewhat more, and in general – a more fragile Nathanel.  While I’m sorry he has to go through this to get to the next place, I look forward to all the amazing things he will be able to do, think, process, and understand.

Spring, Ahhh.

With daylight savings time yesterday, we had a wonderful weather day.  Everyone was outside and it was so wonderful to enjoy the outdoors!  Wow. The fresh air was amazing.

It seems that since we last were able to spend time out doors, Nathanael’s become a little boy.  He can do so much outdoors – it’s like super coordinated boy came out of hibernation.  He helped Daddy with the lawn and we played hockey for a good amount of time.  We also went to the park and his ability to do things like teeter-totter just exploded.  We used to have help him on the jungle gym etc but he doesn’t need much help these days.  He’s just off and playing!

We also met many of our neighbors.  I feel like we are really going to enjoy this neighborhood.  It’s neat to have so many kids around and all the neighbors seem really terrific.  I think we got lucky!

Almost mid-march musings

Nathanael has become a real hocky nut lately.  And, no, I have no intensions of being a hockey mom.  I mean, if he wants to play real bad and works at it, ok – but I’m not gonna funnel him into it.  My nephews play hockey and we’ve been going to a few of Kevin’s games.  Nathanael has been completely intranced by them and talks about “hockey . . . Kevin” a great deal.  The games have been fun to go to and they are on a roll going into the final play-offs.  Hopefully we’ll be able to go to the game on Friday if it isn’t too late. 

Nathanael’s speech seems to have gone backwards a few steps.  At this point, I’m not too concerned; but if things don’t pick up relatively soon – I think we’ll need to consider some form of evaluation.  My take is that he’s within the mean, just on the low end.  N’s physically ahead so I don’t think it’s possible to be good at everything.  We’ll see.

Joe and I are planning a little bit of a get away – yahoo!  I can’t wait to spend some quality time with Joe.  We always have a great time and I hope we can pull it off.

9 days until the old house closes!

2.5, so far, so good.

I had prepared myself for a challenging year.  I dreaded the terrible 2’s.  I wondered last year how we would make it through the next year.  And yes, I know I am tempting fate with this post but at the half year mark, we are looking pretty pretty good.

What’s great about 2

*  Learning how to dress oneself.  If we put the clothes out correctly, N can pretty much dress himself.  How cool is that?  And sometimes, he get the shoes on the correct feet without us showing him.

*  Eating.  It used to be when N ate mac & cheese, it was a mess.  The table, his face, fingers, clothes etc just turned into a creamy mess.  N can pretty reliable get the food in his mouth and well, mom generally makes more of a mess.

*  Bath time is fun time.  N loves it, no one needs to take a bath with him. Yes, we watch him every single moment to make sure that he’s safe, but he loves to play, splash, “swim” and I’m generally not fearful about N bonking his head at every turn.

*  Humor.  N is developing quite the sense of humor.  Little things like the “your a cutie pie” game (each of us insisting that the other is a cutie pie) and turn the head at the last moment kisses.  He’s likes to laugh and it shows.

*  Hand/eye coordination.  N can hit a ball when pitched to him (not always but enough to say that it isn’t luck).  N can kick a ball (too hard sometimes).

I keep hearing to dread the 3’s if you didn’t get the terrible 2s.  And that may clearly happen but now that N has communication & physical skills, we are in such better shape then we were a year ago.


Little E



This is an outfit we sent him!

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